Technology is often commended for making it easier to maintain relationships. We can easily keep in touch because of new advancements in technology, but are those technologies causing us to suffocate each other? Texting, Instant Messaging, Myspace Messages, Facebook Chat, Email, Skype, IChat, are all vehicles for communication but I believe they are causing us to be entirely too connected to our significant others. These devices are giving us too much instant connection and are ending relationships sooner than normal. We are getting sick of each other more quickly now that we are constantly in one another’s faces. I believe this is the reason long lasting relationships are so scarce now.
When a relationship is in its beginning stages, it has become common protocol to maintain a certain amount of distance. One of the most widely spread pieces of dating advice today is to not over text your new significant other. Googling “over texting in new relationship” and you will receive several hits for relationship guide websites and personal blogs emphatically telling you DO NOT OVER TEXT. Each seemingly innocuous text is magnified by your new partner by a hundred and feels as though they are being suffocated. This is a valuable tip and a practice that has quickly been deemed inappropriate, however what happens when the relationship has been established?
Partners who text and email all day long are dooming their own relationships. When we communicate on an hourly basis we are doing two damaging things, the first is eliminating any conversations worth having while in person. Once we finally meet in person after talking all day we will have nothing to do but stare at each other, or mostly likely, fight. This is will cause problems in the short term of the relationship and cause serious tensions which will probably cause the death 
of a relationship.
The other long term problem with maintaining constant communication with your partner is that you are expediting your relationship. Talking constantly increases the stages of a relationship and causes you to reach a state of complacent “been there done that” much quicker than in the past. We should consider the length of a relationship in dog years thanks to this new technadate generation. We have double, tripled, quadrupled, the amount of time we are in contact with our significant other so the relationship should be considered doubled, tripled, quadrupled in length. The easy and quick access to communication is ruining the gradual progression of relationship by hitting the fast forward button. This practice should be outlawed. There should be a limit of texts and emails between a couple in order to preserve the natural progression of a relationship.
http://vanessanlove.wordpress.com/2009/03/28/how-text-messaging-can-ruin-a-relationship/
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_250/261_relationship-rules-text-messaging.html
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